@Okie wrote:
I'll think of you two by spirit!
You never know, we may make it up your way. A sooner visit will likely be a shorter visit. A later visit will likely be a few days longer. There are pros and cons to both. My biggest area of concern, and what would prevent me from visiting altogether, will be my sister's health and our mom's overall wellbeing.
My sister is starting the intake process to get on a transplant list in a few weeks. I am tentatively her back-up caretaker, with my BIL being her primary caretaker. Because she would have to move several hours away for up to 3 months in order to have the transplant, there are some real questions whether I can do that, even on a temporary basis. We don't know how mom will be doing a year or more from now for starters. I'm nervous about leaving her all night right now, but I think she would be fine for 3 to 5 days, maybe longer if I can round up one of these grandkids to actually give a damn about something other than TikTok. My biggest concern about being a back-up caretaker is that should something drastic happen to my BIL, it would move me into the primary position and we'd have a real problem then. I told her tonight that I think she needs more than two people to be caretakers. Even if my BIL is the primary and he never catches a cold, I'm sure at some point over the 3-month period he would want a break. He certainly will need a mental break for a day or two every month, I think. There are a lot of unknown questions with this, and we won't know much until she starts this early process later in January.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 12/31/2024 09:00AM by ServiceAward.