It's not a full moon tonight, but sure felt like it!

Warning: This is a rant. If you do not like rants, no need to go any further.

That's out of the way, so let's get started.

I stopped by an ice cream stand one of my niece's works at this evening. I parked behind the building by her car. As I was walking up the side of the building, a young man approached me and got into my face, repeatedly stating, "Yes sir, yes sir" over and over again. This guy had on cammo, one boot and one tennis shoe, at least two of his pockets were pulled out of his pants, and he wore a toboggan (in 90 degree heat). I repeatedly had to tell him to get out of my face, and I continued to walk.

I suffer from PTSD. I am a paranoid individual due to various things I've experienced in my life. I do not handle well strangers coming into my space unless I have initiated the conversation. I was very close to putting my hands on this individual tonight. He was taller than me, maybe weighed about my weight. He probably did not have the skills I possess and, had I used force to make my point, I would have hurt him. I also would have been considered the one at fault due to the liberal society we have become. It was obvious that he had something wrong with him, but IMHO you cannot take that for granted anymore because you never know what someone will do or what they are up to.

What upset me moreso was that as I waited in line to place my order, this individual proceeded to behind me and went over to the next window where, apparently, his mother was waiting. This guy looked like an adult, but I suppose he could have been a teenager. My thought was why would this parent allow their impaired child to run around and get into people's faces? To my knowledge I was the only one he approached. I never saw him approach anybody else while I was there.

On my way home I stopped by the grocery store. While trying to locate the Wheat Thins, a guy passed directly behind me and excused himself. The aisle was a little crowded where I was, so I did not have any issue with him passing near me. The guy then turned around and said, "Man, I need a favor from you." This guy then took a deliberate step towards me. He continued, "Listen, I do not need any money, but I need a favor. I'm trying to get two packages of chicken legs, I need you to go buy those for me." Again, this moron gets in my face. "Woah," I said, "You need to back yourself up, now!" He started to apologize and I cut him off, "First, it sounds like to me you are asking for money. Second, I have no money for you. Third, do not approach me again." The dude went on. What was odd, he was carrying a Walmart plastic bag that appeared to have hamburger meat wrapped up in it. We were not in Walmart.

Finally, I go to check out and get behind this lady. This woman is trying to buy nearly $200 in groceries. There were two shopping carts, I presume one had been full and the other partially full. This woman starts playing dumb when the total came up. "I thought it would just be $40. I had no idea it would be that much." Are you kidding me? That's what I'm thinking. "I can get $50 worth of groceries. I got $40 on my food stamps and $10 in cash." Then become the process of un-ringing $150 worth of groceries. Finally, this woman takes a bag out of her pocket. It's her "cash." All in dimes and pennies. She then goes to pay the balance with her SNAP card and there was like five cents on it. At this point I let out an audible gasp and before I realized it, I said out loud, "Lord, help me. This is some crap right here." That was not supposed to come out of my mouth - I only meant to think it. grinning smiley The woman then looks at me, and says, "Honey, I'm sorry." She turns to the cashier, "I do not know why I do not have any food stamps. I don't know what to do." There are crickets for a second or two, then she continues, "Just put everything back, and give all those coins back to me." She spent another several minutes counting out or dimes and pennies to make sure she had all $10 back. Finally, it was my turn to check-out and go home!

I have witnessed similar situations probably at least a half dozen times over the past year. People checking out, seem shocked they have no food stamp money or shocked that it is $100 for a cart full of groceries, etc. I think people do this stuff deliberately. NOT everybody, but these situations seem odd to me. I have been on SNAP. Around here, your SNAP balance is always on the bottom of your receipt. Also, it is very easy to call the toll-free number and check your balance if unsure. Never once did I go fill up two carts of groceries unless I knew I had the money to cover it. In my experience, I've only ever seen women do this. I think they are doing it on purpose to try to get someone to pay for their groceries. The last time this happened, which was about two months ago, a woman had $70 in groceries. The poor cashier told her to go on, because she would cover it.

What is up with people today?

That is all. Carry on.

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Wow. I am the most impatient person in line. (Yes, I am in the wrong business. Those dang lottery people buying one ticket at a time.) I would have been fuming. I'm sure I would have left halfway through that. I've noticed several times lately people getiing their card declined, and then declaring they forgot it was locked, and then they spend several minutes unlocking their card. Not stepping out of the way, but expecting everyone to wait on them.

The slightly off people I can deal with, but you are right there is always a chance something will go wrong. When doing reveals, especially where I have to take a torso photo,these ones sometimes try to involve themselves and ask why I am doing it. I just ignore them and talk straight to the employee. If they persist, I just ask them if they work there, and then dismiss them. Don't get me wrong, when people approach me while I am taking pictures I am happy to engage. It is just those who somehow think they need to get involved in the employee exchange.
@ServiceAward wrote:


What is up with people today?

Humans are the scourge of the earth.

Present company excluded, of course.

Or most of you, anyway...

Have synthesizers, will travel...
Sign of the times. Alot of desperate people and mentally ill now. Desperate people do desperate and stupid things. Ever since curbside was born I hardly ever go into a grocery store. COVID is ramping up (Again!). I avoid crowds as much as possible. It sounds like you were as diplomatic as possible.
I don't know... mostly loonatics and folks with disabilities don't bother me, though I did have one come up to me in my car and punch my car. He screamed something about rich people and new cars, then punched my VERY well used 2006 Ford Fusion with 142,000 miles on it, and put a brand new shiny dent in the door.

I see a bunch of videos online, where some guy comes up behind someone and pays for their groceries. Or some woman whines about not having the money and the folks in a hurry behind her pay for everything just so they can get done with shopping. They aren't uplifting stories to me. I have been helped by strangers a couple times in my life, never for 3 or 4 times the amount of money I actually have, only for a few pennies or a couple $$ when I didn't add it right in my head. And I have turned around and done the same for folks who caught themselves off guard, but certainly not $150 worth. I've let folks use my Kroger card to get discounts (and I could get the fuel points).

I believe in compassion and doing good deeds, but I also don't want to be taken advantage of. I've taken pan handlers and folks who claim to be homeless inside the grocery store and buy groceries for them. And there used to be a guy that sat outside of a Von's store in Riverside with his dog, I would buy him a sandwich and a hunk of meat for his dog every time I saw him. He was really nice. Though he was puzzled by the meat for his dog, I told him my dogs eat meat, and I won't buy poison for anyone else's dog either, so his dog gets meat from me. He laughed and said ok. The store manager ran him off eventually, but he wasn't hurting anyone, nor was he asking for anything.

There was one time I took a lady inside a grocery store (I think that was Von's too) to get food for her kids. All she wanted was sugary and sweet things in sealed packages. She didn't want any fresh fruit or sandwich meat or anything that could be made into a sandwich. And when we left the store she asked me for the receipt, and I said no. I needed it for my records, and it was my money that I spent, not hers. She cussed me out, threatened me.. oh boy. The manager of the store came out and asked about the commotion, I told him what happened and he said he would take care of it. My groceries were already in the car, so I just left, with the receipt in my hand. I don't know if the manager gave her the money back or not, I tried to do a good thing. It still doesn't stop me from helping folks when I can, though I'm a little more wary from the start.
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