Binge watching Rose and Maloney. Rose is like... a middle aged, alcoholic Nancy Drew... who gets into scrapes but the job done to the greatest extent possible. Maloney is patient, sometimes resigned and sometimes showing initiative. The show might be revealing more about him. We shall see...

@Shop-et-al He is a good kid but he has emotional and behavioral issues that get triggered sometimes. I heard that the parents are not willing to get a diagnosis of his issues because they think it is a phase and should pass, which is true in most cases. If and when he has a specific diagnosis and the issue does not get remedied, he would be put in a program that addresses these issues with trained people.
I developed a slight fever after Friday and now I am just resting. No sub jobs for me until Wednesday. Need to get some rest and fluids.

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It would be good for that kid to be evaluated. At best, just a phase. At worst, a downward spiral. Anyway, hope you feel better soon!!!!!



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When I was a child around that age, I had similar issues. At that time, I attended a more hands-on school. I'm not sure what I would recommend in this case, and how it is these days. But to share, my teacher would sit me off to the side and communicate how she felt about my actions, and if I understood my actions had consequences. If I repeatedly did it, she took away recess and also made me have lunch with her. In later grades, teachers would also have us fill out "self-management forms". Where shortly after the incident occurred, we had to answer a series of questions (Yes, I know. This was a snooty school.) Looking back it, I do appreciate those sorts of discipline.

Growing up, I was the youngest, and there was quite an age difference between me and my siblings. My parents were on the older side, and didn't discipline me as much. If they did, it wasn't nearly as bad as what siblings had endured. My siblings played a large part in taking care of me and were also very lenient. I do agree though, that is also why I also do have some behavioral issues even into adulthood.

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Back at home, we had a very strict school system. I know now it's much relaxed and lenient. I was a good student, always top of the class, quiet, and disciplined. I wasn't very good at math and my third grade teacher would call upon me to demonstrate how I would solve a problem. Naturally, I couldn't sometimes and one day, she slapped the back of my knees with a ruler several times because I was taking too much time thinking.
I am so glad things are not the same now and teachers appreciate the fact that there are different kinds of kids and given the right kind of help, every student can thrive.
I had issues in my early adulthood, being too shy and meek. Somebody could yell at me and all I could say was yes frantically or I'm sorry. It took a lot of time to uncondition myself from the kind of upbringing I had in my school. But at the same time, I am thankful for the discipline and hard work that they taught me. But, yes those nuns could be very harsh with punishments and words that seared you inside.

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Fiction is such a good teacher, sometimes, for the joys, triumphs, and travails of our upbringing. Just now, am watching 'What's Cooking?' and loving the idea of life at a crossroads, how we are all so alike and yet so different, and wondering how expensive and time-consuming it would be to make one Thanksgiving meal with some dishes from each corner of the crossroad... Could I, of all people, do this?

Oh my, thanks for sharing. I'm glad that you worked through it, and something positive come out of it. I attended catholic church mass and Sunday school for a bit as a child, and I remember it being strict and formal. I still have memories of preparing for First Communion.

I do want to qualify my previous post, in that a large part of my issues was due to myself. The lack of discipline contributed some, but not discovering and addressing other issues at a younger age also played a large role.

@Okie everyone and all of us are work in progress. We all have been affected by some past experience or incident but human resilience triumphs everything. I am not the same person I was two decades ago or a decade ago for that matter. I have learned to make eye contact with people, being confident, speaking my mind, and not trying to be a people pleaser all the time. I am still working on these and my husband has been the person who helped me identify them.
As for today, I feel so much better and going back to sub tomorrow. My sister's husband is coming to US. He has a couple of meetings in Virginia and then he will be flying to Chicago and will stay with us for 3 days. He will be the first family to visit our new house.

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@Okie everyone and all of us are work in progress. We all have been affected by some past experience or incident but human resilience triumphs everything. I am not the same person I was two decades ago or a decade ago for that matter. I have learned to make eye contact with people, being confident, speaking my mind, and not trying to be a people pleaser all the time. I am still working on these and my husband has been the person who helped me identify them.
As for today, I feel so much better and going back to sub tomorrow. My sister's husband is coming to US. He has a couple of meetings in Virginia and then he will be flying to Chicago and will stay with us for 3 days. He will be the first family to visit our new house.

Well Mum, I find this very pleasing...wait...maybe not...you don't have to please me. There. See? You have learned to grow.

@maverick1..haha that is something my husband would say!!

Mum, I want to share. My DH is the eldest of 8. All of them attended Catholic school up to HS. My DH has not so nice memories of the Nuns. I think he came out opposite of the norms/outcome of his childhood education related discipline. I find it mind boggling that he and his 4 brothers were Altar Boys. The education system is lucky to have you.

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Back at home, we had a very strict school system. I know now it's much relaxed and lenient. I was a good student, always top of the class, quiet, and disciplined. I wasn't very good at math and my third grade teacher would call upon me to demonstrate how I would solve a problem. Naturally, I couldn't sometimes and one day, she slapped the back of my knees with a ruler several times because I was taking too much time thinking.
I am so glad things are not the same now and teachers appreciate the fact that there are different kinds of kids and given the right kind of help, every student can thrive.
I had issues in my early adulthood, being too shy and meek. Somebody could yell at me and all I could say was yes frantically or I'm sorry. It took a lot of time to uncondition myself from the kind of upbringing I had in my school. But at the same time, I am thankful for the discipline and hard work that they taught me. But, yes those nuns could be very harsh with punishments and words that seared you inside.[/quote]

Clearing out. Started this past weekend Donated stuff to our Church's thrift store. I and one lucky DD will need to work soon. Today, put an entertainment unit and armchair on the curb. Called the village for disposal beforehand. Now they're gone. DH said a guy with a big truck parked and loaded up This is not the first time. I should know not to call!

@Madetoshop wrote:

The education system is lucky to have you.

Yes, thank you to all you teachers! The teacher I mentioned earlier was one of my favorite ones, looking back at it. She was a long-term substitute for first grade when our original teacher was on maternity leave, then full-time for second grade. I had her for two years straight. Very patient woman.

Another memorable teacher was my English high school teacher during senior year. The most practical and easy to talk to teacher. She let us work on our college admissions essay as a long-term project and peer review, and pick our own reading material during second semester when grades didn't matter as much.

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Some of my teachers saved me....I love teachers.

@Madetoshop Thanks! I have good and bad memories both. Some warm my heart and some make me feel maybe those teachers were going through something in their lives or maybe they were the way they were.
I never felt any unconditional love or support from my teachers. Now, looking back I see that most of the love and support I received was because I was a good, well- behaved student. The same teachers were harsh and cruel with some of the classmates who had issues.
It is heartbreaking to see some students struggling with an issue and not getting enough support at school. Today, I was in Special Ed and my aide said I was really "brave" working with these students. It made me so angry inside that this is how they see these kids. No wonder, kids give up on school as soon as they can.

That's tough to hear. The lack of support tends to get worse too, as they get older and progress into later grades.

Not the same, but I have an old friend/co-worker who moved to another country before COVID but recently returned back to the states. His son grew up speaking another language and in a different culture. He should be in first grade now, but he and his wife purposely held him back and enrolled him in Kindergarten. They enrolled him in ESL, but it's once a week. He says his son cries everyday not wanting to go, but my friend is confident he will learn and adjust eventually b/c he's still so young. Heartwarming to hear.

@Okie. Glad your friend's son is at an age where he will quickly pick up. I sometimes sub at Middle school and there is a Japanese girl who just came to US and she is having a hard time with language. She has her own aide for ESL. I sometimes sub for the ESL teacher and I see mostly Ukranian and Polish students. They have some understanding of English plus the district gives them a device that translates their language to English. It makes my day how hard these students are working after the horrors of war they have witnessed recently. One of the student is so traumatized, he hides behind a chair every time he hears a loud noise. The sub notes said that he has a lot of trauma as he saw his house go into flames, then somehow escaping to Poland, and making it to US.
I know I am supposed to be the strong adult there, but sometimes I can't stop those tears.

Today was half a day of subbing for first grade. The whole district had a half day. Now for the good news, tomorrow comes the THE GREAT BRITISH BAKING SHOW!! Who is excited?

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Little ones can be tough. I teach Kindergarten. I remind myself not to get stressed out when they don't listen. I also talk to them about making good choices. When they do something naughty I ask them if that was a good or bad choice. That seems to help them with behavior....sometimes )

Today and tomorrow ...school was and will be closed for inclement weather. Hope the storm won't be too bad!

@Shopper797, DH teaches middle and upper school; for the past 25+ years and is the best of the best. My beautiful Aunt taught kindergarten for 35 years and was the best DH will deliver dissertations regarding why he would not want to teach kindergarten as well as all elementary grades. You are to be commended. I for one got teary eyed watching my DDs walking in the hallways while practicing "lips and hips" in K. :-)

I subbed all 5 days. 4 in kindergarten and one in grade one. I was already booked that grade one day so the principal did kindergarten for one day.
Hugged the couch every evening. o
Need to do laundry and clean today. And harvesting in garden.

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Gorgeous day! Good for a little story. Think I was a school survivalist. Barely hung on until grad school, when school came alive for me. Finally! The perfect blend of linear and non-linear! I had been longing for this since first grade, but never knew how to express (let alone cross) the ocean between me and the schooling I was seeking.

Some of you might remember when Maggie Smith was on The Carol Burnett Show. The skit with Mama's Family might cheer some teacher hearts...

To celebrate my teams' great football weekend, i get to watch the 1943 Batman movie (free on tubi). Fun to note similarities and differences between versions...such as the batmobile..

Found a big bag of old clothes that I must have decided that I no longer want. It was totally forgotten about and shoved in the back of the closet. Only found it today because I needed to find something else. So now it gets added to my donation pile and it is forcing me to do more decluttering to make that trip worthwhile. Lol

Well, here in the Northwest corner of South Carolina, we got HAMMERED by Hurricane Helene this past Friday in the early morning hours!!! Between No & So Carolina alone, there have been 1.2 MILLION households without power!! .... Including mine! .... Hubby got out this generator that's been in the shed for 15 years UNUSED, and basically new! But the carbuerator and fuel line were clogged. We have a wonderful neighbor whose job is working on small lawn mower engines, so he got his sons to come get the generator and he cleaned it all out! What a blessing! It's a Troy Built 5500 watt generator with an 8500 watt start load. We run it during the day and shut it off at night. And it never occurred to me that I could plug in my modem to the generator and get internet until TODAY when a friend of mine texted me that's what she & her hubby did. So earlier today I plugged my modem into the generator, and here I am!! There's a good chance we won't have our power back until Wednesday, so we'll have to go get some more gas tomorrow. Hubby has 2 gas cans, 5 gallons each. That lasts us two days. Our neighbors have been a huge blessing!
Our area got about 10-12 inches of rain in a 48 hour period, followed by the gusts from the outer bands of the hurricane's east-side eyewall, gusts ranging up to 65 mph, fast, furious and frequent! So lots of trees down. Hubby and I drove to get gas yesterday and saw two poles snapped from trees, and wires sliced in two!
So for the past two days I'm using electric skillets, microwave and crock pot to cook, and we're doing OK!
Anyone else here affected by Hurricane Helene??

Sorry to hear, glad to hear that you are safe. Fortunately, my area was not affected. The worst thing I've experienced was a snow/ice storm where we lost power for multiple days in Dallas some years back.

@guysmom. Oh, dear. We are willing you safety. Hurricane Sandy was a horror for us. We were powerless. Our blessed neighbors ran an extra line from their generator so we were able to save our refrigerated food and have wifi. Gifted them with an Amex gift card. We have a generator now and have only had to hook it up twice. Rain here with winds.

Raining, dreary weekend. Cleaned some. Lazed around some. Sous chef to my Mama., Mrs. Maisel finally as I have to watch it with my Mom.

It's a bird, it's a plane, it's Supercartwheeler... Where will the creative story go?! Only the members can decide...

Reading All Good People Here by Ashley Flowers.
This is to procrastinate blanching and freezing the beans