dee shops Wrote:
> -I have my students call me by
> my first name, as did every college professor I
> had as I went through school.
The key is in your own wording: You HAVE the students call you by your first name. This implies that you have given consent, that they have your approval to do so.
To do so without that consent, either given, or implied, is, in my opinion, not something that has evolved yet, and not something that I am willing to allow to evolve.
When someone addresses me by my first name in a business setting, they have implied that they feel they have a right to do so. In so doing, they have either consciously or subconsciopusly made an attempt to remove the level of respect I am due as a client or customer, and are trying to level the playing field.
Putting us in the same level means they don't have to feel responsible for catering to my needs, or meeting my expectations.
They aren't my friends, they aren't my family, they aren't my social circle, they are someone performing a service that I am buying.
Iam not their friend, the brother or their buddy, I am their customer, and as such, their paycheck.
The lack of resepct for that, in my opinion coincided with a lack of regard for their paycheck.
"Easy come, easy go."
"I was looking for a job when I found this one."
"That job sucked, I had to call everyone Mister, I was so out of there!"
My oldest son, (bless his heart, may he grow up some day) in his infinite laziness who changes jobs about as often as he changes underwear, wasexplaining to me why he quit a recent job. He said "You don't expect me to stand there all day in an animal costume and wave to cars do you?"
I told him that when he has a job I expect him to do anything that is safe and legal that his employer asks him to do. I didn't say fun or cool, I said safe and legal.
But etiquite, like everything else in our society is indeed evolving.
If I am JT this week instead of Mr.T, how much longer will it be before I am "hey dude"?
Language and etiquite evolve, but only to the point and at the rate that society is willing to accept.
I guess this is where we have our differences.
While some are willing to accept this, I am not yet ready to do so.